Tag Archive | living well


In a world full of noise,
Where chatter and chaos reign,
I’ve learned to create a place
That is free from all the strain.
That oasis is within my soul
Where it can be protected;
It’s part of all that makes me whole,
Where my true self is reflected.
In places harsh and loud
Where a heartbeat can’t be heard,
I have learned to guard my soul
And to govern every word.
So that I live in solitude
To share with those around me
As a token of gratitude
For the peace and joy that ground me.



We become whatever we imagine, which is fed by the “food and water” we ingest:  All that we listen to, people we hang out with, books we read, things we watch, past experiences…


What is feeding your imagination?  Do you have a healthy, clean, nourishing diet of love and promise?  Do you feast on peace, hope and joy?  Do you drink the water of forgiveness?  Do you dine with people who comfort and encourage you?  Do you season your food with discipline, correction

and challenges?


One of the most powerful discoveries in recent years has been that our brains are “plastic.”  They build new neuro pathways whenever we are injured or encounter fresh challenges.  This may seem to apply on a physiological basis alone, but the truth is, our hearts and minds are built in exactly the same way.


We have the power to choose the food and drink for our souls.  We can learn truth and develop fresh perceptions or we can rehearse old lies and injuries.


Many things on the dining table” are words and events in our past that have told us who we are.  Some are life giving; some are not.  The antidote for the hurtful ones is forgiveness.  This releases us from the tether of the past and sets a new standard, making a brighter future possible.


Were some of those things said or done by you?  I think the hardest person we ever have to forgive is the one who looks back at us in the mirror.  Then we move on to parents, siblings, teachers and others.


Invite people who are on paths that lead to wholeness and success to join you.  We become like those we hang out with:  Entertain the “I’m nothing but a loser” crowd, you will follow right along; choose the ones who are “going for the gold,” you will be at the finish line with them.  I’m sure this is nothing new to you.  Mothers, fathers, grandparents and teachers tell us to choose our friends carefully from the time we start first grade!


Most important, befriend yourself.  After all, you are the one with whom you live, everywhere, all the time.  It’s hard to treat yourself with love and kindness if you don’t like who you are.  On the other hand, if you become comfortable in your own skin, choosing well becomes a way of



There is a saying:  “People of equal health attract.”  AS you become clearer about yourself, others have less power over you.  You recognize lies, pitfalls and possible injury before you walk into them.
As your vision clears because there are fewer toxins, be sure to feed your soul with truth.  Who are you?  What is good, wholesome and strong?  What do you like?  What are your dreams?  Who do you know that brings out the best in you?


Bon appetite!


Wouldn’t it be nice if bullying didn’t exist at all?
Wouldn’t it be nice if it didn’t occur at school, home or in the work place?


In my mind, bullying is abuse, even though some of the articles I have read say otherwise.  Any time power is being usurped and used to tyrannize another, abuse is taking place.
Any time one feels unsafe because somebody (or a group of people) is giving them cause to think that their work, health or life is in danger, abuse is taking place.
Any time a person is led to believe that he or she has responsibility for things outside his or her power, abuse is taking place.


My first suggestion for how to deal is, get away if at all possible.  Mistreatment such as this causes injury to your soul.


I am thinking of a job I had.  The first year seemed fine; then, my supervisor began to find things “wrong.”  Not in writing was that he was uncomfortable with my blindness.  I actually did leave that position, three months after this abuse began.  It took me another several months to recover.  One of the greatest temptations was to blame myself, even though all evidence pointed to discrimination, manipulation and bullying on the part of my supervisor.


I have a hard time imagining a situation that would prevent someone from leaving, but if that is the case, you will need to take deliberate measures to see to your care and safety.  Make sure you have people in your life who remind you of your dignity, strength and qualities.  Build alternatives so that you can eventually leave.  If work and income are at stake, do what you have to so that you won’t fall flat if your job ends.


Most of all, take charge of yourself.  I used to have a therapist who would counsel me not to give my power away to others.  IT took a long time for me to catch on to what he was saying.  One primary way we do this is to believe what others say to or about us.  IT is amazing how wrong they can be!  How you regard yourself is far more important than anybody else’s opinion.  After all, you are the one who lives inside your skin; you get the consequences or rewards for your choices; nobody else does.


There are still people who try to bully me, either with words or exclusion.  I am finding that my best defense is a clear, strong identity.  I know who I am; I am learning not to let the bullies get me down.


Happiness speaks in the most quiet voice;
She barely whispers;
She never intrudes;
She always leaves us free
To make our own choice.
Happiness speaks from her home deep within,
Where she was conceived;
Where she still abides;
Where she joins with wisdom
To see that we win.
Happiness speaks in a voice all her own;
Accepting no bribes;
Not yielding to fear;
Expressing deep knowledge;
In such loving tone.
Happiness speaks as a most trusted friend,
She calls us higher;
She says to live well;
She leads as we follow;
Then whispers again.


The depression monster
Is ugly and gray;
He comes out of hiding
In his incidious way.

At first he just whispers,
An innocent sound;
Then before you know it,
He enfolds your soul around.

He covers your mind’s eyes
With goggles so black,
The world becomes dark;
So you can’t find the way back.

He puts a heavy weight
Of care on your heart
Filled with doubt and worry,
It’s such a poisonous dart.

But you must remember,
He’s a liar and thief;
A powerless coward;
Who relies on your belief.

It’s time to throw him off;
Make him go away
By laying down his load
And getting stronger each day.

You will have the victory
O’er this ugly foe;
Get up and get moving;
Live well and he’ll have to go.