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Don’t Be Surprised

I started my journey of healing many years ago.

The first leg was a long, steep, difficult path that wound through rocks and thickets so dense, I couldn’t see beyond myself at all.  It’s unpredictability was mind boggling.  I would climb a little higher; then find myself in a hole with no apparent way out.  Some days, I was pleased with what felt like progress, only to fall into a helpless heap of despair the next.

Eventually, the path widened into a road – you know the kind:  Two tracks with plenty of ruts and potholes.  The going was a bit easier and I had more perspective.

I found some nice spots to rest along the way:  Just the right mix of sun and shade, running water near by and soft places for lounging and sleep.

I don’t know how it happened, but I came to another steep, difficult place; in fact, it was more painful and challenging than the first one.  This time, there was no path.  I had to whack my way through the underbrush.  I thought I’d never get through it all!  Perhaps the hardest part was that I blamed myself:  If only I had learned my lesson the first time!  What is wrong with me that I’m back here??

Eventually, I had the pleasure of travelling on wide, well paved roads.  They were straight and level; there were lots of companions.  Loneliness was not even a whisper of a thought.  The camaraderie was wonderful!

Years later, my journey took a turn, and once again, I found myself in a quagmire.  I was dismayed!  This time, I had enough experience and maturity to recognize that this is part of a life-long pilgrimage.  It was still difficult and in some ways, the most painful of all.  I knew what to do:  Keep moving forward, step by step, clearing by clearing.

The moral of my tale?  When you find yourself in a difficult patch, know that you are making progress.  These detours are necessary for continued growth and wellness.  Greet them with dignity; don’t be surprised when they happen.

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DIG DOWN

As I have walked through many years of healing and recovery, I have noticed something:
The work I need to do is ever deeper.
Unlike the building of a house, which starts at the foundation; then goes up from there,
Reparation seems to start in more shallow places and go deeper, until it is at the foundational level of all I know, believe and experience; not from my head, but from my heart.
It seems that deeper work requires greater health and maturity.  It calls for strength and wisdom that I simply didn’t have earlier.

 

Do you find yourself facing monsters that “should have died ages ago?”
Take heart!  You are going into the deep regions of your being, where profound healing takes place.
Move steadily forward; dig down to the lowest, most hidden parts;
Let light shine in the darkest corners.

 

Oh, I know, this journey seems to go on forever.  It even appears to go around in the same circle, time after time.  That isn’t the case, however.  Every new insight, step of forgiveness, new truth and breakthrough is yours, a treasure that cannot be taken away.

 

This endeavor isn’t the fast kind of digging, such as what is done with shovels or backhoes; it’s more like an archeological dig:  You are down in the dirt with your toothbrush, unearthing small fragments that could be nothing, or the most amazing artifact ever uncovered.

 

Keep digging.  Bring every little bit to light, where it can be exposed and examined.  Get down to the foundation of who you are, making repairs as you go.  Then enjoy the sweetness of new victory, greater clarity and freedom as you emerge with a more profound sense of yourself than you have ever known!

HOW WILL YOU

How will you build tomorrow,
Knowing what you do today?
How will you find new direction
That sends you more happily on your way?

 

How will you forgive the past,
Setting you free to move on?
How do you let go of old hurts
So that you’re able to sing a new song?

 

How do you befriend yourself,
Accepting all that you are?
How can you push beyond limits,
Until you’re reaching for the farthest star?

 

Such a riddle and puzzle,
Needing the very best clue;
Its answer is simple yet deep:
Such full living begins and ends with you.

NEW TRUTH

When I was a child,
I learned many things;
Some of them were helpful,
The sort that growing brings.
Then there were the others:
“Truth” that seemd to work back then;
The lessons that needed to change
If misery was to end.

 

“My own needs don’t count;
Don’t think, talk or feel.”
Are rules that had to go
So I’d be free to heal.
That I am a person;
Truth of real humanity;
Whole and acceptable as one
Who is learning how to be.

 

Living is a process
Of learning, growth and change;
It’s part of how we’re made;
It really isn’t strange.
As you search for new truth,
Choose paths of discovery
May you encounter in yourself
The strength of recovery.

CLOUDS

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Dark with sorrow;
Turbulent and cold;
Torn apart by winds
Of painful memories old.

Teardrops falling
In bittersweet pain;
Wounds are cleansed and healed;
We start to live again.

Lighter feelings
Come on breezes fair;
Bringing in fresh hope
And treasures we can share.

Sorrows melting;
Giving way to light;
Souls wake from slumber
To warmth and feelings bright.

Storms come and go;
They’re not meant to stay;
Like clouds in sunshine,
May old hurts melt away.

ONE-LINERS

Throughout my life, I have learned a number of “one-liners.”  Many of them have been quite helpful:

“The clearer you are about yourself, the less power others have over you.”

“A dysfunctional system is like flypaper:  There’s no way to engage without getting stuck.”

“The best revenge is to live well.”

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“The first rule of relationships:  Stay out of the middle.”

“When you’re going through Hell, don’t camp there.”

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“Sow tomorrow’s seeds today.”

“A journey is taken one step at a time.”

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CHOOSING LIFE

Yours is the choice:
Oh, which will it be?
Fear, doubt and shame
Or great victory?

 

You get to choose:
You have the power
To go for life
Each day and hour.

 

Fear is a liar,
Out to make you think
He conquered you;
His lies really stink.

 

Then Shame and Doubt
Try their best to say
You’re unworthy;
Don’t give them their way.

 

Alive and strong,
Powerful and real;
You make the choice,
How you think and feel.

 

Laugh at old Fear;
Give worry the boot!
When you choose well,
You live from the root.