Archive | September 2015


I was in my late 20’s when repressed memories of abuse started coming up.  I was also anorexic at the time.
One day, while I was at my weekly “heart surgery” appointment, my therapist asked me a question that I have never forgotten:
We were talking about the things that had happened to me in childhood and the messages my parents had given me.  She asked, “So how long would you like to do the same thing to yourself that your parents did to you?”
Okay!  That’s a zinger; I think now would be a good time to stop.
As children, we have little or no power and choice.  Oh, we might choose which toy we want or reject a particular food item, but when it comes to the overall quality of our lives, we are dependent on the adults who are in charge of us.
Once we are old enough to leave home, however, all of that changes.  We do have power and choice; we can decide what to believe, how to act and what sort of lives we will have.
Admittedly, it took me a bunch of years to get free from the beliefs about myself that I picked up as a child.  The good news is, the journey that started in my therapist’s office only got better as I laid down old lies to embrace new truths.
So, are there things your parents did to you that you would like to stop doing to yourself?  Are there beliefs that you have picked up, which need to be laid down so that you can find truth instead?  Today is a good day to start on that journey.



There’s a different kind of success.  I don’t know that I have ever heard or read its description, even though it is tremendously important.  IT

is not determined by what you do or how well you beat the competition; it has nothing to do with popularity, fashion or income.

Puzzling, eh!  Success that is not measured by accomplishment.

So how do you know you have this elusive gem?

When you know that you are precious, well and fulfilled, whether you just achieved something great or took a nap.  It is a sense of clarity

about who you are as a person.  IT comes from your heart; from the deepest part of your being.  That is why all of the work and hustle we get

caught up in have nothing to do with it.

Another way to talk about this kind of success is to call it prosperity, in the true sense of the word:  To be whole, safe and well.  Knowing

yourself, living in peace and holding to all the goodness that is available to you is prosperous indeed!  The good news:  It is yours to keep

for as long as you live, even when you no longer scramble to get ahead.


Oh, the boxes we build
Are not useful at all;
Though they seem quite secure,
They only make a wall
That keeps us from others;
That stifles each soul,
Until isolation
Draws us into a hole.


There’s hope for each person;
There’s truly a way out
Of our stifling boxes
Made from fear, shame and doubt.
It’s the way of freedom;
Nourished with loving care,
That calls out expression
Of gifts we have to share.


Uniqueness is its sign;
Honest integrity
That let’s you become you
While I’m becoming me.
No boxes are needed;
In fact, they’re not desired;
We’re created to live
And fly ever higher.


My word to you is this:
I’ll lay all boxes down;
Flatten and destroy them,
Until none can be found.
There’ll be no box for me;
None for you and others;
So that we join in love
As sisters and brothers.